Fear and Rivalry Block Success
Rivalry in the workplace feeds on fear and insecurity and is accelerated by the desire to be recognized or appreciated. Few can withstand the discomfort and pain of being criticized, attacked and blamed—the literal sense of being stabbed and deeply wounded.
The pain is then absorbed into negative emotions creating physical illness, addiction or deep morose. Attempts are made to expel the pain by blaming, attacking or lashing out at another leading to great rivalry, competition and jealousy.
This rivalry we are seeing in dramatic proportions in the workplace stems from childhood pain that needs to be released by facing and experiencing it—the very thing that most people avoid. This avoidance of understanding themselves at a deep level, occurs because they are afraid of opening up a dirty secret—they are not worthy. It takes so much energy maintaining this wall of protection and image of strength, because it is false.
Next week I will talk about how each of us can face our inner fears and what questions to ask ourselves when we are being confronted or criticized in the workplace. Although it can be funny to laugh at Dilbert, in our real life situations, it is no laughing matter.
Danna Beal
www.dannabeal.com
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